What is friendship? Really? Today being friendship day and all, this is the pressing topic on my mind. What makes two people good friends. Why is it that we get along so well with some people while we get nowhere with others. How is it that we are so comfortable in the presence of a few close friends. It is not that friends are similar. Or that they agree on all issues. They are also not from similar backgrounds mostly. Then how is it that despite all these important differences, we still manage to have such amazing friendships?
There are various theories here and most of them sound fine. But let me put it this way. I believe we are all connected to each other in this world. Not just people but animals and plants too. We all share this earth and simply by being a part of this now, we all are connected on some level. Let us say it’s at the soul level and this might not be in our conscious state at all.
If we spend some time with just about anyone and if we are able to share our truth with each other then we have to feel the connection in some way or the other. Depending on the truth we share as well as our comfort level with each other, as well as our emotional connect with that person, we bond with that person. Some such ‘bonds’ are lifelong and some might be ephemeral. It is not our choice usually though we could make it our choice often if we wanted to.
Do we make that conscious choice? It is not easy. Often we are plagued by our own self doubts, insecurities, past experiences, false beliefs, and these hamper our decisions. We might make the wrong decision and move away from some wonderful connections. But I also believe the Universe is looking out for us, all of us. She knows why we make wrong choices and patiently gives us a second chance and a third chance and so on. If we are so caught up in our past then we keep making the wrong choice even though we are given enough hints and opportunities to rethink our decisions.
Only a lucky few who are able to break through their own limiting beliefs go on to forge amazing friendships that last a lifetime. Others are given chances, the choice to make it is always their own. There is risk involved. Of course we are forced to be vulnerable in such relationships. But then again all good relationships involve a huge amount of vulnerability and trust and this is what makes them special. There is only truth in these friendships and that means there will be hurt and pain too. However the love and care and trust and respect that forms a strong foundation in these relationships will ensure that the pain and hurt is only temporary and eventually you are in that zone where there is only happiness and peace and inspiration and bliss.
Now THAT is what you share with a true friend. So I dedicate this rambling post to all my Friends out there. You know who you are. I love you all. Unconditionally. Forever.