The push & pull of relationships
“It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever
recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely
determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not
comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with
Relationships are such a challenge because life pulls us in
opposite directions at the same time.
Our personality feels the need to be unique and special and so
our focus lies on how we are different from others. Differences
hold the potential to create conflict.
At the same time, our souls live through connection with others.
We are challenged to rise above our personal preferences to
discover how we and the other are the same.
Our overall need lies in balancing these two tendencies.
“The purpose of relationships is not happiness, but