Are you afraid to be different?


On the path of evolution, we move from being a willing and obedient member of the group to wanting to take control over our own lives. This is a necessary but difficult transition.


Andrew Schneider says, “At this point we are afraid of being ourselves. We are afraid of being unique and different. We are afraid of being individually powerful, and even successful. For all of these things stand against the old ways that told us that conformity was right and individualism was wrong.


“For as long as we possibly can, we make a compromise. We try to live both lives – the dependent tribal life and the independent personal life – as contradictory and opposite as they are.


“We want approval from others. We want to be accepted and popular. We seek this comfort to overcome our fear and feel more secure. …So, at times when we conform, we don’t feel the fear of living. But we might lose the new sense of adventure, discovery, daring and enthusiasm for life that the questioning and questing have brought us.”


“Nature never repeats herself, and the possibilities of one human soul will never be found in another.


— Elizabeth Cady Stanton

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5 thoughts on “

  1. I used to be afraid to be different, but I sat down and thought about all the energy I wasted trying to be the person people wanted me to me.  Surely I had a better use for it all!  Now I’m pretty much, if someone doesn’t like me for me, that’s fine.  I don’t need them to validate my life.

  2. Wow, I’m completely busy at work – have no time to post comments – but this post really got to me because I’m struggling with this lately. Thank you so much for posting this.
    Cocci
    P.S. Have a great day!!

  3. I think if people just live naturally (i.e. be/behave/live/etc. natural), there won’t even be the question of conforming or individuality. such distinctions would be meaningless. peace.

  4. I think too many people are scared to be different. Even when I was younger and really shy I still didn’t conform. People will hate on you for it but that’s their problem. Let them be the ones to conform, I’ll just be real.

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