what do you do when you realise that you have been living all your life for your family, friends, and loved ones and suddenly everyone around you seems to be complaining that you are not ‘there’ for them and never really have been … ???


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  1. You have to assess the situation.  If it was my family telling me that, I would know that they are too self-absorbed to notice when I am ‘there’ for them.  And it never seems to be enough, no matter what I do.  But that’s changing.  You can only do so much for so many.  Take care of yourself first, and everything else will fall into place.

  2. I agree with both comments above. Think about what it being said and find if there’s any truth to it. Learn from the situation and also don’t live for those people. If I believed everything that some people in my family said about me, I’d probably be so depressed I just wouldn’t want to be alive. Some of what they say is true. Since I’ve been able to accept that, I have grown. Now, some stuff is just a bunch of bull crap and that stuff I just dismiss. Everyone has an opinion, but, that doesn’t mean I have to allow those opinions to define who I am.
    It’s my choice. It’s all about choice. Accepting and rejecting what others say. And learning from each situation. I’m almost 41 and I’m still learning.
    It’s not what others think of you. It’s what you think of yourself. It’s your attitude that really matters.

  3. Hi there! First off thanks for subscribing to me!  Secondly, I completely understand what you’re saying…I lived my entire life according to what other people thought…what my family wanted me to do…what was “expected” of me…but I decided that I needed to live my life the way I wanted…that was actually a short time after I met my now fiance that I made that decision…he is from florida and I am from Missouri…we met thru xanga actually…and no matter what anyone told me I knew that he was it for me…it didn’t matter to me that everyone said we were moving to fast (ok not every one daeshii ) but you get my drift…I knew he was it…and so I made the decision that I’m living my life for me…no one else.
    Hope all turns out well for you!  take care!

  4. Sometimes it is hard not living for your family and friends…You want them to be happy even if it means giving up your own happiness…Then one day you wake up angry at the ones you love, because you didn’t just live for yourself and make yourself happy…Both can be done…

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